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Monday, June 14, 2010

Sleep training

Tonight is going to be Ella's first night in her crib. She has spent the last seven months either sleeping in her swing, on me or beside me. She keeps waking up at 3 a.m., and she is starting to outgrow the swing. It's time to move her to her crib.

I would love to co-sleep with her like I did Tessa, but there are several problems with this. Tessa still sleeps with us. Yes, I know she's seven. Yes, I know she needs to be in her bed, but at this point, she needs her sleep and so do we. So, she sleeps in our bed. I'm hoping she'll see that Ella can sleep in her bed by herself and will feel bad about not sleeping in her own. This means there is no room for her in our bed. The next problem is that Brian doesn't want to co-sleep. He thinks we created the monster with Tessa, and maybe we did. I think if I had moved Tessa to her own bed at 18 months or so, she wouldn't be sleeping with us today.

The reason I didn't move her then was that a little girl in Florida was kidnapped from her room and killed. I was so paranoid that I just couldn't do it with Tessa. Our room was on the other side of the house, and I was so afraid I wouldn't hear someone if they came in the window. So, this is the first time I've ever had a baby not in the room with me.

My plan of attack has changed just in the last hour or so. I was going to rock her to sleep and put her down in the crib. Well, I did that for her nap, and the minute I laid her in the crib, she woke up. It's going to happen again and again. So, tonight, I'm going to put her down in there awake, turn off the light and leave the room. I can't let her cry. Crying it out goes against everything I believe in about parenting. It's hard enough putting her in the crib.

If she cries, I'm going to go in there and comfort her. I am hoping she will fall asleep easily. If she doesn't, I'll be going in there all night. I will not let her cry. Wish me luck that this goes well. She will probably be fine. I'll be a nervous wreck.


JenJen said...

I do hope that Ella will motivate Tessa to move to her bed, also. And, I certainly hope that you don't end up with 2 kids in your bed...kinda kills the romance ;)

My sister had the same problem with her first with not being able to get her out of her bed then the second came along and she slept in their bed, too...and, then the third one came along and she slept in their bed, too...So, in essence her and her hubby haven't had a marital bed in almost 11 years which would be fine but they WANT a marital bed and can't get the kids to go to their room. These type of situations get worse the more time that lapses. I honestly love the theory of co-sleeping but love being able to sleep with my hubby more...Cooper is safe in his bed with no threat of being rolled on by my big body :)

Good luck and be strong! I don't believe in crying it out either! I haven't/can't do it...although, I have let him whine it out once or twice..but, never a cry...

Karen said...

Hope that it went well. Thanks for swinging by my blog, and I am following you as well now. Have a wonderful day.

Pam the Realtor said...

Crying it out worked for me, but you have to do what you believe in. I've never understood the whole co-sleeping thing because I enjoy my sleep way too much! I do have to admit that I have 2 dogs on the bed with us though, so maybe that counts? :0)

Good luck and may you have peaceful slumber soon!