tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8910344092058694056.post7311796106488744256..comments2023-10-28T05:48:01.985-07:00Comments on Motherhood The Sequel: Why I am doing thisMrs. Motherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11548716422011525616noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8910344092058694056.post-66813390974628608412008-08-27T17:19:00.000-07:002008-08-27T17:19:00.000-07:00I am so sorry for the loss of your daughter. I too...I am so sorry for the loss of your daughter. I too lost a little boy named Tristan Asher who was born with Trisomy 18 on December 3, 2007 and lived 56 days.<BR/><BR/>I completely understand what you mean about people saying the wrong thing and it hurting or not saying anything at all. I love to talk about our little boy and feel we should, not only because he is still a part of our family but it allows us to keep his memory alive.<BR/><BR/>I was so fortunate last Fall to find a group of girls that were all pregnant with Trisomy 18 babies and we walked this journey together however it was lonely until then because we did not know anyone who had ever lost a baby either.<BR/><BR/>We created a blog also and you will find 2 lists on the side, one is babies that had Trisomy 18 - I didn't know if you had found any of them yet.<BR/><BR/>Again, I know the loss you are feeling and agree with the commenter above, blogging will help you heal AND it will help other moms that are grieving.<BR/><BR/>Sincerely, Yvette Hostetter<BR/>www.tristanasher.blogspot.comYvettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12470530399873634506noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8910344092058694056.post-50081910944426922452008-08-27T16:23:00.000-07:002008-08-27T16:23:00.000-07:00I am so sorry for your loss! My son, Christian pa...I am so sorry for your loss! My son, Christian passed away on Friday from T18 and the pain is difficult to bear. The Now I Lay Me Down To Sleep website (www.nilmdts.com) has a page on what not to say to parents grieving over the loss of a child. Like we are struggling to cope with the loss of our childen, our friends and loved ones struggle with finding the right words to comfort us. Not only are we left to pick up the pieces of our shattered hearts...but we must find understanding behind the meaning of seemingly heartless comments from people we know. I know your pain. Keep blogging...there is so much you can teach others! We must find strength in each other because, like you've said, we are all linked together in this secret society. I am always here for you if you want to talk about your precious baby girl. Love, LeahLeahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02324207485114310927noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8910344092058694056.post-55282077993017402452008-08-27T14:01:00.000-07:002008-08-27T14:01:00.000-07:00I think there should be a list made, telling peopl...I think there should be a list made, telling people what isn't appropriate to say to a mother who has lost a baby. <BR/>Some of the stuff I have heard just about knocks me on my bottom when I hear it. I want to scream at people!!<BR/><BR/>I hate the whole reasoning of, "Well, you're young, you can have more!" No kidding!! But that doesn't make the hurt of losing Cameron any less, you big a-hole!<BR/><BR/>Or someone who has lost a child at an older age. Someone said to me, "Well at least you didn't lost them when they were 3yrs old."<BR/>You're right, I didn't...and your point is what exactly?!<BR/><BR/>At this point, I'm trying to think of ways to get my point across to them while being as polite as possible. As much as I want to start throwing punches, I know I can't :)<BR/><BR/><BR/>Just know that you blogging and sharing your personal information is likely to be helping another grieving mother while also helping to heal you. We do it to pour our hearts out to the only people who will understand - ourselves and other mothers who have also lost their precious babies. It's our own therapy!Holliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16767643619349198011noreply@blogger.com